New Year, New Relationship

Are you tired of being set up on disappointing dates by your mom? Are you sick of friends dragging you out to bars and meeting duds and not studs? Are you secretly hoping that the love of your life will magically appear while quietly browsing the supermarket?  If you’re still single and ready to mingle, you better believe you can begin your whirlwind romance TODAY. Take matters into your own hands and visit your local library for free resources to get you back in the dating game or playing for the first time!

Dating for Dummies by Dr. Joy Browne, PhD- What better series to kick-start your dating life than the Dummies series, whose motto is “making everything easier!” This series is known for its simple, user friendly approach that caters to beginners. Expert Dr. Joy Browne, a licensed clinical psychologist, offers a no-nonsense guide to modern dating and discusses: being the best person that you can be, hotspots for meeting other singles, online dating and safety, first date tips, and re-entering the dating scene if you’re divorced, widowed, or rebounding after a relationship. Browne isn’t exactly edgy and there are no profound revelations on dating in this book, but she outlines basic dating etiquette that everyone should know and practice.

The Year of Yes: A Memoir by Maria Dahvana Headley- Have you “dated then hated” a long list of lovers because they can’t measure up to your standards? After entertaining the idea that she may be too “judgmental” after not finding The One, writer Maria Dahvana Headly decides to say yes to every man (and woman) who asks her out on a date—including the homeless and a millionaire! It’s a harrowing account of dating in New York City with an unexpected ending. Headley eventually finds her true love, who she would have surely missed if it were not “The Year of Yes.”  While saying yes to EVERYONE you meet compromises safety for a grand social experiment, it’s useful to throw away the choosy attitude and allow yourself to say yes once in a while.

The Manual: A True Bad Boy Explains How Men Think, Date, and Mate—and What Women Can Do to Come Out on Top by Steve Santagati- You hear it all the time: girls love the bad boys. If you’re attracted to the wild ones that leave you wondering “why hasn’t he called?”, then self-professed ex-serial dater and bad boy expert Steve Santagati has written a book for you. The former model and advice guru seen on “Oprah” and “The View” is not one to sugarcoat things and is not going to let you cry on his shoulder about rejection and closure. He is willing to cheer you on as you become proactive in your dating life while explaining how bad boys think. Santagari is like a magician who gives away all the secret tricks, to benefit us all, of course.

Dating Makes You Want to Die: But You Have to Do It Anyway by Daniel Holloway and Dorothy Robinson- This book is from a decidedly pessimistic point of view. The authors clearly have had overwhelmingly toxic experiences, there’s a skull and crossbones on the cover of the book, but in the interest of not dying alone, they guide us through the “absurdity” of dating. Great for someone coming off a breakup- they will appreciate the acerbic tone and honest advice.

Become Your Own Matchmaker: 8 Easy Step for Attracting Your Perfect Mate by Patti Stanger and Lisa Johnson Mandell- An honest book by Patti Stanger, of Bravo TV’s “The Millionaire Matchmaker.” While she is over-the-top on television, she actually builds a solid case in her book, which is livelier than the Dating for Dummies guide, but just as helpful. One of the highlights of the book is one of its first chapters: “Dating Detox,” the act of forgiving all the bad boyfriends you’ve ever had and concentrating on how YOU feel and self improvement. Patti considers this therapeutic time an essential part of the dating game.  It comes as a relief when we discover Patti isn’t afraid to tell women “he’s just not that into you.” Difficult to digest? No woman wants to hear “cut him loose, he doesn’t like you,” but she urges women to stop wasting their valuable time on men that aren’t worth the self-improvement that you achieved in Dating Detox.

Other Resources:
The Science of Single: One Woman's Grand Experiment in Modern Dating, Creating Chemistry, and Finding Love by Rachel Machacek

Finding Love Online: Freeway Guide: Secrets to Internet Dating Success by Karin Anderson (playaway)

Dating for Dads: The Single Father’s Guide to Dating Well Without Parenting Poorly by Ellie Slott Fisher

If you have a library card, you have no excuse for another weekend moping around the house. Check out a book and check out your new dating prospects!

-Gina Mc.


  1. Gina Mc's entry is very interesting for those who are interested in the dating world. The recommendations seem to correspond with the subject at hand. Keep up the good work GM!


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